I know what it feels like when the life you spent decades building changes overnight. I’ve lived it. I’ve healed from it. Today, I’ve dedicated my work to helping women find peace after a blindsided divorce.
I was blindsided when my husband unexpectedly ended our 25-year marriage.
Like so many women I work with today, I became consumed by the questions, the obsessive replay, and the belief that I would never fully recover. I kept waiting for time to make things better, but it never touched the emotional hold the divorce had on me.
Everything changed when I discovered how the subconscious mind and nervous system shape the way we experience emotional pain. As I learned to regulate my nervous system, identify the beliefs driving my suffering, and rewire those patterns, the obsessive thinking stopped. The pain dissolved.
That experience changed the direction of my life.
I created Beyond Blindsided because I knew other women deserved more than being told to “give it time.” They deserved a process that helped them heal.
After a blindsided divorce, the advice is almost always the same: “Give it time.”
Time matters, but it doesn’t resolve the emotional hold of a blindsided divorce.
When your world changes overnight, your nervous system searches for certainty. Your mind replays conversations, searches for answers, and questions your worth because it’s trying to make sense of what happened.
Beyond Blindsided addresses the patterns keeping you emotionally tied to the divorce through nervous system regulation, subconscious belief work, and neuroscience-informed healing. You stop being pulled back into the same painful questions. Triggers stop hijacking your day. You experience more peaceful days than painful ones.
Healing changes your relationship to what happened.
One day you’ll notice something surprising.
The moments that once consumed your day no longer carry the same emotional weight.
A text from your ex becomes just a text. Hearing his name doesn’t pull you back into the same painful questions. The constant search for answers gives way to something you haven’t felt in a long time: peace.
You’re thinking more about your own plans than about his choices. You notice yourself saying yes to dinner with a friend, making plans for a weekend away, or laughing without immediately feeling guilty for it. Life slowly stops revolving around the divorce and starts revolving around you again.
You realize that he no longer occupies the center of your life.
He becomes someone you used to know.
When your energy is no longer consumed by what happened, you have room to focus on what matters most to you.
You trust your own decisions. You make plans because you’re excited about them, not because you’re trying to prove you’ll be okay. You choose where your time, energy, and attention belong, and those choices start creating a life that feels like yours.
This is the work of Beyond Blindsided. Healing the emotional hold of the divorce so you can fully participate in your life today.
My personal experience led me to this work. My professional training gave me the tools to help other women heal.
I am a Certified Trauma-Informed Coach, Certified Rapid Reprogramming Coach, and Certified Life Coach with a specialization in Positive Psychology. I continue to deepen my education through advanced training in somatic healing and the science of lasting emotional change.
I’ve had the privilege of supporting women throughout the United States, Canada, and the United Kingdom as they heal from the emotional trauma of being blindsided by divorce. I’ve also shared this work through podcast interviews, workshops, and conversations focused on helping women understand why healing is possible and how to experience it.
Beyond Blindsided brings together everything I’ve learned through my own experience, my professional training, and the privilege of walking beside women as they find peace after a blindsided divorce.
Originally from Pennsylvania, I now call Arizona home. I love spending time with my two adult children, hiking the desert trails with my Great Pyrenees mix, Pippa, getting lost in a good book, practicing yoga or Pilates, and enjoying live music and theater whenever I can.
The life I enjoy today is living proof of what’s possible through healing. It reminds me every day why this work matters and why I’m so passionate about helping other women find that same peace.
Thank you for taking the time to get to know me. I’d be honored to get to know you, too.
